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3 golden rules to help you smooth into a likely breakup

"One short fight or one jolt to expectations doesn’t kill a relationship. It happens over time. And no matter how much you try to deny the fact that your relationship is on a downward curve, somewhere your heart knows"

Shivam Singh

Dates become forced, caring becomes responsibility, conversations turn mundane and future starts appearing difficult. Breakups don’t happen with a snap of fingers. One short fight or one jolt to expectations doesn’t kill a relationship. It happens over time. And no matter how much you try to deny the fact that your relationship is on a downward curve, somewhere your heart knows. And then comes a phase when everything becomes obvious and often ugly and the end is just a matter of time. So if you are hovering anywhere in between, here are a few things that might just help you in coping with that impending breakup.

Reduce your dependency

It’s not that you cannot wake up on your own, but when your loved one calls first up in the morning, the start to the day feels right. Isn’t it? Similarly, you can shop on your own, decide what to eat and console your heart when in distress. But when someone else does those little things for you, it makes you feel special. So when you see the first signs of things going bad, the wisest thing you can do is reducing your dependency on that someone for the smallest of things. So that when they go, your alarm clock doesn’t remind you of how alone you are.

Find your source of happiness

You got into that relationship in the first place because you were seeking happiness. It is in fact the major reason behind any big decision in life. You have spent some of the happiest moments of your life with your partner. You experience a sense of completeness with them. And now when you are sensing that breakup, your heart is scared. It doesn’t want to let go the reason behind all the joy. So just give your heart another reason to smile about. It can be anything, a new hobby, a circle of friends or a dream to achieve something special. Just fill that emptiness.

Analyse and convince

Any decision is difficult only if you are not convinced about it. And confusion arises only from lack of knowledge. A breakup can be really hurtful if you haven’t looked into your relationship thoroughly. Somewhere you know it’s the best step forward and somewhere you want to hold back. The decision is yours to make. But if the breakup is unavoidable and totally necessary then there are reasons behind it. Give yourself a moment. Dig deep and analyse the quality of your relationship. Give points. Find out if it’s worth continuing. Ask yourself if this is the future you want. At the end of it you will be surprised by the clarity in your mind. And once you show your heart what’s right, it will listen.

Everything stated above is easier said than done. But one thing you should definitely do for yourself is thinking, critical and clear thinking. Some relationships are worth continuing and some are not. You are matured enough to analyse what holds true in your case. Just remember these are just life decisions, like a choice of career or something else important. These are of course of value but in the end they are just part of your life.